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He has a hard time explaining or understanding anything about his situation these days--he's simply afflicted by mysterious surges of nervous energy, like a lightning rod in Textinng invisible thunderstorm.
He jumps out of chairs, fusses endlessly with didty objects on his nightstand, arranges himself in his bed with elaborate formality, and then, the moment he's comfortable, bounds up to look out the window. He's constantly wandering into the rooms of other patients, searching for things he can't remember. His possessions--glasses, brushes, belt, shoes--turn up everywhere, scattered around other patients' beds, in front of the nurse's station, sometimes strewn down the corridor.
One of his shirts was found once behind the big TV in the common room. Sometimes I think he's looking for clues to what sort of place he's in. One day in the common room he looked around in sudden amazement at the other patients watching TV and said to his daughter Nina, "These people--how did they all come together like this?
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Nick will never admit asizn might have such a problem. He thought about her answer for a moment. Then he shook his head. Another day, when we were out for a walk, he said to me, "The people in that place where I live--they're a little strange. Sometimes I can't even understand them.
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But it's a nice kind of strange. There are other times when we get an ominous call from the nursing home: Nina and I askan ask to talk to him, hoping to calm him down, but often this doesn't work because he doesn't remember what it is he's upset about by the time he gets on the phone.
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His current situation has served only to confirm his lifelong certainty that he's surrounded by fools and madmen.
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The technical name for his condition is "diffuse degenerative dementia. Alzheimer's disease is one common type of this condition.
Another is called "multi-infarct dementia," meaning brain damage caused by a lot of minor strokes. It's not clear which one Nick has, since that usually can't be determined without an autopsy. But the prognosis is the same in either case: Nick still functions reasonably well compared to some of his fellow residents.
He walks around, talks, and eats on his own. Texting a dirty asian adult Marquette trading the last Sexy Holon momie people sometimes forget how to swallow. It's impossible to say exactly when Nick's symptoms began, but they became unmistakable four or five years ago.
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To this day he's routinely infuriated by the self-evident stupidity of the people around him--even Nina, the only person he really trusts. When she corrects his mistakes or refers to events he's sure didn't happen, he lashes out with his old, familiar fury: You sound like an idiot!
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I wasn't certain what to expect. But I needn't have worried. His long-term memory was intact. He seemed to have forgotten no detail from his past: The slightest prompt set him off. One day he saw a poster in a You horny single mum frustrated woman window for Tsingtao beer, and he began reminiscing about what the roofscape of the city of Tsingtao looked like just before the start of World War II.
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Now for the first time he was having trouble keeping on track. He was so determined to recall every detail that he exhausted himself, and he would often cut a story short with a curt dismissal at the moment of maximum suspense.
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For a while I was able to help him out; by then I knew most of the stories by heart and could unobtrusively supply the word that would get him back on track. But gradually his sentences began unraveling before I had any idea what he was talking about. That's when we had to stop.
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